My Dad is very grumpy and resists any help I try to offer. How can I convince him to be more optimistic and less dismissive?

Asked by: Jacqueline Hatch |Posted on: November,20 | Viewed: 477 times


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Thank you for your question. It is common for grumpiness to accompany the aging process, especially for someone who is used to being independent. Try to understand the situation from his perspective; he may be reluctant because he is embarrassed about receiving help from his adult child. Fortunately, there are things you can do to help him feel more comfortable and optimistic. 

You could try hiring an in-home caregiver to help with the activities of daily living. He might feel better about accepting help if it is from a trained professional. And this will ease the burden on you as well. 

To get him to be more optimistic, you could talk to him about getting involved in some activities at a local senior center or nursing home. He might feel better after meeting new friends and having a little fun. 

Whatever you decide to do, however, understand that these emotions may be linked to deeper feelings of helplessness. Your father is aging and that can be a difficult time, especially if he still wants to feel like the parent in your relationship. Be gentle with your words and give him time to come around to new experiences. Chances are, you'll both feel more comfortable and less stressed out. 

 Hope this helps!

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